Unconventional Fathers as PRIDE Grows
By Iyana Jones
Breakfast in bed has proven to be one of the good ole trusty gifts that resurface with special holidays like Father’s Day. Many of us have probably attempted (and failed) in our younger years to reward our own fathers with this treat, but thankfully it was never really about the breakfast. The breakfast served as a token of appreciation to someone who has loved us unconditionally.
In Sage Sohier’s At Home With Themselves, we get to relive those special moments we share with our fathers as we watch two fathers make breakfast with their child. This intimate occasion these men share with their child, is a moment so many of us can relate to regardless of the sexual orientation of our fathers. We know the joy of being lifted into our father’s arms and the warm feeling of safety it provides us. We know that a moment as small as this one can turn into one of our favorite memories later on in life.
Many of us are able to find representations of our fathers on television and magazines, but for those who are not raised by a heteronormative couple, it can prove to be a challenge. However, society is making progress to ensure that queer images of fatherhood are more prevalent making it easier for those who are part of queer families or have queer parents feel visible. We are now easily able to find proud gay parents through the gift of social media such as Andrew Joseph (@andrewsjoseph on Instagram), who depict a loving queer family, like so many across the globe.
Representation of all families is long overdue, and photographers like Sohier and proud parents like Andrew are paving the way to give them the visibility they deserve. There is no one way to look like or be a father. Too many still believe that a father has to be a certain way. Too many still cannot turn on their televisions and see their own families being represented accurately and honestly. The beauty of what they are able to capture is these children’s acceptance of their fathers, the way we accept our own and should accept others. As we celebrate PRIDE this month, let us all be like this child and love fathers for who they are, not the labels society labels them with. And maybe try making breakfast with them… just for old time’s sake.